While many men believe they are fabulous at cunnilingus with their partner, one is never too experienced or too good at oral sex.
Your oral sex skills always have room for improvement. There are too many people who cannot locate a clitoris, and this can be a hindrance in bringing their partner to orgasm. That’s why learning, knowing and being prepared is always the surest way to success.
Most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, and so it happens that one of the easiest ways to achieve that stimulation is with oral sex. Oral sex and intercourse are not separable from each other, but an integral part of a high-level erotic relationship.
Here are some tips for cunnilingus that every man (or woman) should keep an eye on. Life is too short for mediocre oral sex 😊
Try different techniques
Different people like different techniques of oral sex. Some women love to have their lips licked, while others prefer their partner to focus primarily on the clitoris. Many women take pleasure in using their fingers and tongue at the same time, while for some it may just be too much. If you’re with a new partner, try different techniques to figure out what they like.
You can try making clockwise or counterclockwise circles around the clitoral hood to start. If her body responds positively, continue otherwise try something else. For example, you can move your tongue up and down, side to side or in a figure-of-eight motion. The clitoris isn’t the only area you can explore with your tongue, but it has the most erotic sensors and is the center of the action.
The number one rule for great oral sex is consistency. What one woman likes, another may not like. Every single body is different and loves different things. So when you feel his body igniting your practices continue with even more passion.
Pay attention to her moans and movements. If she moans and pushes her hips against your face, you are on the right track. This simple ability to pay attention can lead your woman to consider you indispensable as an oral sex giver.
Ask her what she wants
If you are confused and unsure of what she wants and you don’t understand it from her reactions, ask her in a teasing way. Something that worked with one woman may not work with another. The vulva is as unique as a snowflake and no two are alike. Does she enjoy internal stimulation while she receives oral sex? Do you like having your lips licked? Is her vaginal opening particularly sensitive? Being able to communicate with your partner is extremely important. She will appreciate that you are interested in finding out what pleases her.
Use the clitoral hood
The clitoral hood is the flap that protects the external clitoris, just like the foreskin does for an uncircumcised penis. For many women, direct clitoral stimulation can be too intense, especially at the start of oral sex. The clitoral hood is your friend! Instead of pulling him up to access the clit, he stimulates her clit over the hood. This will provide the right amount of pleasure without causing discomfort. Once she’s aroused enough, you can try touching her clitoris directly. Another trick? Try breathing them into your clitoris before making contact with your tongue. This raises anticipation at the wonderful first contact with your language.
Try G-spot stimulation.
If she likes internal stimulation during oral sex, stimulate her clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. The G-spot is not just a “spot” it’s more of an “area.” It is the area surrounding the urethral sponge. When stimulated , you are accessing the root of the clitoris, the part you cannot see externally.
To find the G-spot, insert two fingers into the vaginal canal and hook them towards the navel, behind the pubic bone region. Make a rocking horse motion with your fingers. You can press around the area, offering pressure-based stimulation, or move your fingers in a grounded, circular motion.
Don’t forget to pay attention. G-spot stimulation isn’t necessarily that stimulating for all women. Experimenting is great, but be willing to learn and hone your skills with each new partner.
Don’t be afraid of toys
Toys are an excellent addition to oral sex. They are fun, not threatening. Take them into consideration. You can use a vibrator on her external clit while stimulating her G-spot. Ask her how she likes to use sex toys, if she uses them. If he prefers to use them himself, see how he handles the toy. There are so many toys, the possibilities are endless.
Once you start, don’t stop until she wants to change positions or until she has an orgasm, and if she allows it, keep your hips in place and bring her to a second orgasm by gently rolling back.
Encourage her to relax and take her time. Many women are afraid of “taking too long” to reach orgasm. Tell her how sexy she is and how much you enjoy pleasuring her and that it is very exciting for you.
Stay there for as long as necessary. Patience is sexy.