When experts talk about things that can hinder the harmony and positivity of sexual intercourse, they often include elements such as shame, anger, resentment and unspoken expectations. But there is another element that doesn’t get as much attention, even if it has a huge impact on our relationships: disappointments.
Unfortunately in bed sooner or later the disappointment will happen. There will be times when you won’t get what you want and there will be times when your partners won’t get what they want. It’s just a part of life. But here’s where it gets a little more complicated. You won’t always get what you want from your partner and they won’t always get what they want from you.
To highlight this aspect in the best possible way, we ask our readers to help us tell their experiences about disappointments experienced in the intimate relationship with the partner. If you want to send it to us with a private message and we will make it anonymous. We insert 2 testimonials reported by 2 clients of one of our sex therapist friends:
“Maria” she is 39 years old and has been married for 12. “In the relationship I practice oral sex with my husband and I do it because I like it. Unfortunately, my husband often holds my head as if he wants to direct my “work” … This is disappointing and also irritating to me because it not only takes away my self-esteem, but also takes away the fun of experiencing what I want … “
“Paolo” is 57 years old and separated but has had a partner for 3 years. “I have a partner who is 19 years younger than me who I care a lot. Not infrequently after making love she says to me – is that all? – This disappoints me a little but I don’t say it because I know that he jokes about the age difference …. “
Tell us what disappoints or irritates you in the intimate relationship. We will publish all your contributions!
One of our readers who prefers to remain anonymous sent us this testimony: “I am married and I happened to have an extramarital relationship a few years ago. The chemistry with this woman was perfect from all points of view but unfortunately the big disappointment came the first time she gave me oral sex. I felt that she was doing her best to please me, but unfortunately I could feel her teeth and she hurt me thus reducing my arousal.
Even a reader gave us this very funny testimony: “We women don’t always reach pleasure fast enough. So if the position makes your arms sore, if you have a tired tongue or if your abs do not support your pyrotechnic positions, please, do not complain and do not throw tantrums like a child, rather act and change position or technique. Complaining, whether it is in words or snorting, will not improve the situation. In some cases, silence is truly golden. “